Lasting Friendships

Friends. Everyone has them. Some have uncountable number of friends while others may only have a handful. But does that tell others what kind of a person we are? By the number of friends we have? I don't think we can judge a person by the number of friends they have as it is too subjective. Perhaps it tells us how popular this person is but when it comes to whether this person makes a good friend or vice versa, my opinion is that we have to look a step deeper into what kind of friends does this person make.

Talking about friends, I do consider myself as a person who has enough friends to keep me company whenever I am lonely. This includes "being there for me in person" and "being there for me online". However, I do not consider myself as a person who makes a good friend. Well, this is purely based on the number of close friends I have.

Close friends. How would you define a close friend? I would say that he or she must be a person I feel comfortable with in any situation and any place. I should be able to tell him or her any thing and that includes all my personal feelings towards anyone. That means I should be able to trust the person to keep my deepest and darkest secrets.

Although I am talkative and can talk just about anything with anyone, I am quiet reserve in some ways.

Several bad experiences in my past friendships have taught me to be more careful in selecting my friends. Especially those whom I may want to consider being friends with them for life.

Sometimes, I think that a lasting friendship is one that has been nurtured with true love. It is also one that has withstand serious arguements or disagreements but both parties had overcome all these with love.

Although friendship is different from a love relationship, both need love to keep the parties intact.

Those who tend to fall out, in my opinion, are those whose friendship was not built on strong foundations. The parties did not know each other well enough for them to endure much trials. They did not love each other enough to accept each other's shortcomings or the courage to tell each other what they do not like.